WeddingSouth Indian Hindu wedding: rituals in order
Hindu weddings in Tamil Nadu, Andhra Pradesh, Telangana, Karnataka and Kerala are usually held in the morning, at a muhurtham chosen by the priest. The central moment in most of them is the tying of the thali or mangalsutra. Each state and community has its own rituals; these are some of the best known.
| Ritual | When | What happens |
|---|---|---|
| Nischayathartham | Before the wedding | The engagement. The families exchange a written agreement, gifts and often rings. |
| Pellikuthuru and haldi rituals | A day or two before | In Telugu families the bride and the groom are anointed with turmeric and oils at their own homes. Similar rituals exist across the south. |
| Kashi yatra | Wedding morning | In Tamil Brahmin weddings, the groom pretends to leave for Kashi to become an ascetic, and the bride's father persuades him to marry instead. |
| Oonjal | Wedding morning | The couple sit on a decorated swing while the women of the family sing and bless them. |
| Kanyadaanam | In the mandapam | The bride's father gives her hand to the groom. In Karnataka the pouring of water over the joined hands is called dhare. |
| Jeelakarra bellam | At the muhurtham | In Telugu weddings the couple, separated by a cloth, place a paste of cumin and jaggery on each other's heads at the exact auspicious time. |
| Mangalya dharanam (thali) | At the muhurtham | The groom ties the thali or mangalsutra around the bride's neck with three knots, to the sound of the nadaswaram and drums. |
| Talambralu | After the thali | In Telugu weddings the couple shower each other with rice mixed with turmeric, a playful moment. |
| Saptapadi | After the thali | The couple take seven steps together around or beside the sacred fire. |
| Sadya or wedding meal | After the ceremony | A vegetarian feast served on banana leaves. In Kerala the ceremony itself is brief and the sadya is the great event. |
Customs differ from family to family and from place to place. This is a general guide for guests and for couples learning about each other's traditions, not a rule book. Reviewed on 11 November 2026.
If you are a guest
- The wedding is in the morning and the muhurtham is exact. Come early.
- Guests bless the couple with turmeric-coloured rice (akshata) when the thali is tied.
- Silk saris and veshtis or dhotis are the traditional dress. Footwear is left outside the hall.
- On a banana leaf, the meal is eaten with the right hand. Fold the leaf towards you when you finish, as is the custom in many places.
Questions people ask
What is the muhurtham?
The auspicious time fixed by the priest for the main ritual, usually the tying of the thali. It is observed to the minute.
Why three knots?
By custom the groom ties the first knot and his sister ties the other two in many communities. The meanings given to the three knots differ from family to family.
Other traditions
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