WeddingChristian wedding: rituals in order
Christian weddings in India are held in a church, with vows, rings and hymns, followed by a reception. Communities in Kerala, Goa, Mangaluru, Tamil Nadu and the North-East each add their own customs.
| Ritual | When | What happens |
|---|---|---|
| Engagement or betrothal | Months before | The families and often the priest witness the couple's promise to marry. Rings may be exchanged. |
| Banns | Weeks before | In many churches the intended marriage is announced on Sundays before the wedding. |
| Roce | The evening before | In Goan and Mangalorean Catholic families, the bride and groom are anointed with coconut milk at their homes. |
| Procession | At the church | The groom waits at the altar. The bride walks down the aisle, usually with her father. |
| Vows and rings | In the service | The couple make their vows before the priest or pastor and exchange rings. |
| Minnu or thali | In the service | In Kerala and Tamil Nadu, the groom ties a small gold pendant on a thread, the minnu or thali, around the bride's neck. In Kerala he also gives her a sari, the manthrakodi. |
| Blessing and signing the register | End of the service | The priest blesses the couple, and the couple and witnesses sign the marriage register. |
| Reception | After the service | Cake cutting, a toast to the couple, a first dance in many communities, and a meal. |
Customs differ from family to family and from place to place. This is a general guide for guests and for couples learning about each other's traditions, not a rule book. Reviewed on 11 November 2026.
If you are a guest
- Arrive before the bride. Once the service begins, enter quietly.
- Stand and sit with the congregation. You need not join prayers that are not your own.
- Photography during the service may be limited. Follow the church's rules.
- White is the bride's colour in many communities, so guests usually choose other colours.
Questions people ask
What are banns?
A public announcement of an intended marriage, read in church on Sundays before the wedding, so that anyone who knows of a reason against it can speak.
Is a church wedding legally valid in India?
Christian marriages are solemnised under the Indian Christian Marriage Act, 1872, by a person authorised under that Act, and entered in the marriage register.
Other traditions
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